Setting Boundaries with Yourself

  Another aspect to developing and maintaining a healthy relationship with yourself is being responsible and setting appropriate boundaries. There needs to be a counterbalancing force to acceptance. If you think of a parent dealing with his or her children (or you,...

Self-Sabotage or Self-Love

Is it self-sabotage or self-love? In over 30 years as a therapist I have marveled at the effort my clients make to change and to grow. These efforts include trying new and difficult behaviors, dealing with their painful emotions and asserting themselves in their...

Neurogenesis and Resilience

I have defined resilience from many different perspectives thus far: It’s the ability to bounce back; it’s optimal self-regulation and adaptability; it’s being aware or awake for as many moments in your life as possible. Here is another aspect of resilience: It’s the...

If Our Stress Response is Good, More is Better

If our stress response is good, then more stress is better. There are many ways that your stress response serves you, mobilizes you to take action, helps you focus and be more motivated. It enhance performance. There is great reluctance, therefore, to set any limit on...

Why We Crave Stress Like a Drug

When you start out training to become a psychologist, you take many courses focused on theories about behavior. One of the first lessons is that behavior that is reinforced will be strengthened and continued, while behavior that isn’t reinforced or that is negatively...