Tag Archives: accepting reality

Connection with Something Greater

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Do you long for a connection with something greater? Our modern industrial society—the world we live in—fosters isolation. Although the “Golden Rule” is revered, most of the time we live by “Survival of the Fittest,” where it’s all about getting ahead or simply surviving, even at someone else’s expense. This fosters a feeling of defensiveness. […]


Relationships with Others

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Relationships with others begins in the mirror. Many years ago Paul Simon wrote the classic song “I Am a Rock.” “I am a rock; I am an Island. And a rock feels no pain, and an island never cries.” Despite Mr. Simon’s wishful thinking, few of us live on an island. And we certainly aren’t […]


Key Ingredients for a Healthy Relationship with Yourself

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What are the most important factors in establishing and maintaining a healthy relationship with yourself? We often hear it said that it’s impossible to love someone if you don’t first love yourself. There is definitely some truth to this statement. In fact, love and acceptance are at the heart of a good relationship with yourself. […]


Self-Sabotage or Self-Love

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Is it self-sabotage or self-love? In over 30 years as a therapist I have marveled at the effort my clients make to change and to grow. These efforts include trying new and difficult behaviors, dealing with their painful emotions and asserting themselves in their relationships. I see people struggle to free them¬selves from the controlling […]


Ignoring Feelings Makes Us Numb

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If you have found ways of ignoring feelings—and we all do this—then a likely consequence is that, to some extent, you have numbed yourself. You see, you are not able to selectively make yourself unaware of only negative feelings! When you depress or push down your anger, or unconsciously engage in shallow breathing to numb […]


Resistance to Overcoming Old Patterns

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If you are going to get onto The Path and stay on The Path, you have to recognize the invisible obstacles that keep getting in your way. To be on The Path you must learn to have your eyes wide open—to be awake. When you are asleep, metaphorically, you don’t know you are asleep. That’s […]


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