Setting Boundaries with Yourself

  Another aspect to developing and maintaining a healthy relationship with yourself is being responsible and setting appropriate boundaries. There needs to be a counterbalancing force to acceptance. If you think of a parent dealing with his or her children (or you,...

The Path of Optimal Living

Posted in Psychology Today July 20, 2015   After over 35 years studying the field of stress and resilience, my goal has been to define resilience in the broadest possible terms. This notion began when I realized, early in my career, that stress is one of the most...

Key Ingredients for a Healthy Relationship with Yourself

What are the most important factors in establishing and maintaining a healthy relationship with yourself? We often hear it said that it’s impossible to love someone if you don’t first love yourself. There is definitely some truth to this statement. In fact, love and...

Self-Sabotage or Self-Love

Is it self-sabotage or self-love? In over 30 years as a therapist I have marveled at the effort my clients make to change and to grow. These efforts include trying new and difficult behaviors, dealing with their painful emotions and asserting themselves in their...

Neurogenesis and Resilience

I have defined resilience from many different perspectives thus far: It’s the ability to bounce back; it’s optimal self-regulation and adaptability; it’s being aware or awake for as many moments in your life as possible. Here is another aspect of resilience: It’s the...